In our lives growing up, accompanied by a wide variety of the mentality ofeach period. These attitudes, not born, only habit. Psychologicaladjustment, social competition, is one of many people with lofty ideals ofconsensus.
Different attitude casts a different life. Pain and joy are not absolute andunchanging, attitude determines results, the right attitude can change theenvironment, changes a person.
In the United States, there is a young woman named Selma, she followed her husband to attend military exercises in desert. Husband didn’t usually ather side, she was the only one left alone in a container like the Tin hut.Due to the hot weather in the desert, the Sun burning every day, only aroundMexico and the Indians, gradually, Selma was tired of living here, and shedid not speak the local language. This made her feel life has no meaning.Her husband a long time to come back, came back and did one day and left in a hurry. In these days of lonely, Selma, restless, she thought of distantparents, picked up his pen to write to parents in an attempt to stay away from this boring place.
However, in the parents ‘ letter, only this line once, two men looked outfrom the window of his cell, one sees the mud, and another man see stars inthe sky.
Why is that? Selma lies all day, worried, thinking back and forth ofmeaning. Read it many times over and over again, it suddenly dawned on her,felt the current life has no meaning, is as a result of his State of mind,in fact she can get comfortable, look for her in the desert. The stars.
Since then, Selma changed the past negative States, actively make friendswith local people, Mexico and Native American languages, Yun to sometimes,and they lived together, in place neighbor, their relationship has become increasingly close. Selma got the locals in return, she loves the localpottery and textiles, local pottery and textiles was sent to her as a gift.
In the absence of the husband‘s day, Selma, no longer rattle the livingcolorful, she saw in the desert ranges do not have a life, and went to studytheir habits of life and growth. Selma is no longer felt alone, she masteredthe Prairie dogs living habits, watching the sunrise and sunset in thedesert, tasteful life.
Gradually, Selma felt more mature, have adapted to local life, no morecramped and uncomfortable. Filled with enthusiasm, Selma, picked up a pen,according to your imagination and wrote of the joy of life of the Castle.Two years later, the Castle successfully published the happy, Thelma alsofound her in the desert “stars.
Desert does not change, local residents haven’t changed, because Thelmachanged their mentality, she is an earth-shaking changes, turning negativeinto positive, life is so different. Of course, we not only need to keep apositive attitude, and avoid the negative mentality of the fall, but also todo all rivers run into sea, tolerance is a big fit people do not adapt themselves to changing facts and social trends, such as water, in any case,it can accept the stone and sand.
Work success, historically there have been two opposite case preciselyillustrates this point
United States has a high wire performer called wallenda, on one occasion, heperformed at a major event. Before the game, he kept reminding himself
“This is too important to fail, must not fail.
However, he unfortunately crashed and killed during the performance.
Later, his wife said. Gallium wallenda didn’t like this. Before each show,he would concentrate on preparing, always thinking about how to rope, nevercare about other things, not to worry about success or failure. Too muchsuccess this time, instead of paying the price of life.
This incident, and later became a classic case of psychology, called.Wallenda Park. One case was
In 1796, Germany University extension, there is a mathematically gifted 19-year-olds called Gauss. Every day, Gaussian to make teachers threemathematics homework.
On this day, he finished the previous two questions. However, when you dothe third question, he felt was very difficult. The requirements to theproblem is with a compass and a ruler without marks, in the case of no othertool, draw a regular 17-GON. He did what they are learning, thinking, andpractice, but made no headway. So he put aside old ideas, trying to useunconventional methods to unravel the puzzle.
The next day, the Gauss gave the answer to the teacher. Instructor, asked,surprised. Did you make it yourself?
Gao Sitan replied. Yes, I didn’t sleep for one night only.
Mentor exclaimed excitedly. You‘re awesome, you broke a more than 2000 yearsof history of mathematics outstanding!.
It turns out that for many years, Gauss‘s mentor has been trying to solvethis problem, but have been unsuccessful. Behold, he mistook the problem tothe Gauss, he cracked.
Later, Gaussian recalled. If the tutor told me no one can solve thisquestion 2000 years, I fear, there can be no confidence to unlock it.
Experienced success due to a moment. Must not fail. Psychological concernsin such a bad state of mind under the influence, would lead to a realfailure, more serious and therefore paid the price of life. And we were justa student of Gauss, uncertain teacher subject difficulty, to young‘sstubborn and a relaxed attitude will not burden no one can solve the problemsolved.
This is a different state of mind that has a singular force. Mentality is not good, will not be able to compete with others, not to mention thesociety?
Now society is short of a competitive society, do not know how to adjustoften being caught napping, some potential weaknesses of your mind takes youout of the game. Facing competition, you have to calm, not because of speechor action, and change their opinion, to adjust and to maintain an optimalstate.
We can’t make society adapt to us, so we ought to adapt to society in apositive and optimistic attitude. Don’t lose any time, you want to have anormal heart, in the midst of the crowd society, adhere to a world of their own, not assertive, not hesitating, not restless, not worry about, times ofbeach-goers, so you can develop to better compete with others.